When I initially put the first post up, I was so excited-- we had 3 responses within 30 minutes! And a couple of the guys even sounded decent! But then Craigslist drama ensued...
The first post went up.
It got flagged.
I found out that flagging happens for one of two reasons: Either you're violating CL policy, or you're violating some unspoken CL community rule. Turns out, there is an unspoken rule that you don't post for your friends in the personals section. So I reposted in miscellaneous romance.
That got flagged, too.
Finally, I went for strictly platonic. Being Craigslist, of course, it isn't strictly platonic at all. But it tends to be less... sketchy.
Now the responses to the ad have stopped entirely. I sent one potential candidate on to Lady #2. We'll see how that goes.
But holy mackerel, Craigslist is so sketchy. And by sketchy I really mean, 100% focused on men getting laid. The last time I used Craigslist was when I was single and looking to date another woman, and wow, women are much less overt about their interest in getting laid. It's there, of course, but we're more willing to cushion it with things like dates and getting to know each other. The men of craigslist, on the other hand, are mostly just lazy and horny:
looking 4 someone REAL!!! (35, Boston)
i'm a nice guy just got out of a long term relationship, looking for someone REAL to get some drinks and hang out, maybe more. if you're game, send an email with the word real in the subj line so i know your not a bot or spam.
This is not a real ad, but it is representative of many. Guys just put up short, lazy things like this, hoping that something will come through. Why someone looking for a serious person and a longer-term relationship would email a guy who can't even write three sentences about himself and put up a picture, I don't know.
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